The plan is to have contracts drawn up and finished by middle of November to be able to start meds in December. This would hopefully allow for an early January transfer of 2 (maybe 3) beautiful little embryos.
I know in the beginning of this journey it was very hard for me to wait patiently but ever since meeting the guys I'm just at ease.
I think there is a sense of confidence and optimism that is keeping me calm.
I'm so ready for all of this, the shots, traveling, pee tests, ultrasounds, and belly bump!
Hopefully there are no issues in the contract and we can move forward smoothly.
I know this isn't much of an update but good news is just around the corner!
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Saturday, September 29, 2012
The Next Step
So......I had my medical screen, labs, psychological evaluation, background check, and eric had his labs drawn also.
Everything came back good.
The psych part was creepy, well the written portion anyway..... a lot of weird questions! I am officially not crazy (my mom is thrilled that she didnt "screw me up too badly") hahaha.
Now I am all cleared medically. I may or may not need a varicella vaccine but thats no big deal.
I think the next step may be contracts which should be a breeze considering we've already discussed the major components. Once contracts are drawn up, both sides have a lawyer to help them go over it and sign. Then, we can make a baby!! well.... grow a baby-theyre already made :)
Its hard to not get ahead of myself here, and I cant help but imagine the fun parts.
Because Ohio's insurance is boofy (word blast from the past), we'll have to wait a little bit to get started. I think it would mean a feb. transfer at the latest but possibly jan. which could have me delivering this time next year!!!
In the meantime, Im getting to know the parents and loving every minute of it.
They are such sweet people and I am truly blessed
2013 is going to be a fantastic year!
Everything came back good.
The psych part was creepy, well the written portion anyway..... a lot of weird questions! I am officially not crazy (my mom is thrilled that she didnt "screw me up too badly") hahaha.
Now I am all cleared medically. I may or may not need a varicella vaccine but thats no big deal.
I think the next step may be contracts which should be a breeze considering we've already discussed the major components. Once contracts are drawn up, both sides have a lawyer to help them go over it and sign. Then, we can make a baby!! well.... grow a baby-theyre already made :)
Its hard to not get ahead of myself here, and I cant help but imagine the fun parts.
Because Ohio's insurance is boofy (word blast from the past), we'll have to wait a little bit to get started. I think it would mean a feb. transfer at the latest but possibly jan. which could have me delivering this time next year!!!
In the meantime, Im getting to know the parents and loving every minute of it.
They are such sweet people and I am truly blessed
2013 is going to be a fantastic year!
Friday, September 7, 2012
On Cloud Nine
I've been putting off writing this: for the first time in my life I have a loss for words.
I've been feeling so many emotions lately- all good! Its just hard for me to wrap my brain around this. I CANNOT BELIEVE how blessed I am.
These dads are out of this world!
I had an amazing time in LA- and that word "amazing" does not even come close to doing the trip justice.
God has been so ever-present and it reaffirms everything I am doing. I do not believe in coincidences, and with that said, so many things have happened that makes me want to cry happy tears. I've never been more sure of ANYTHING else in life like I feel for this journey and these dads.
For them to think even for a split second that they wouldn't be able to have children just breaks my heart.
So, I'll start from the beginning:
Monday was Labor Day- S and his mom and pop drove all the way (2.5 hours) to meet up for a cookout so we could all meet eachother's families.
Ummmmm SUPER COOL Parents!!!
Hilarious! Down to Earth, genuine and loving parents. (although after some of the stories S told me, his momma has a sassy side :0
I was so focused on things going smoothly at the cookout that I didn't have time to think that I was actually flying to LA the next morning!
(Thanks to my sissy,mom, and husband for helping so much)
It was wonderful to be able to see all of the most important people in my life together in one setting. That alone is rare.
Tuesday Morning: S picked me up and we headed to the airport. Flying is so cool!
We had a layover in Chicago and after a delayed plane, running through the airport in heels, and lots of funny people watching, we got a new flight to LA.
I have this weird thing for palm trees- they make me crazy happy :) so to see them from the plane was heaven.
As soon as we landed we grabbed a bite to eat and S gave me the most beautiful Swarovski crystal angel wing necklaces! Talk about unexpected!
I told him we don't need luck (because we have something better) but that hopefully it will represent 2 necklaces for 2 babies ;)
I was blown away
Our doctors appointment was first (and the entire reason for being there)
I was slightly nervous for what the doctor was going to see and say, I mean I know I have working parts, but I have heard of some surrogates going for the medical screen and it not being a good outcome. I really wanted him to like my uterus hahaha!
He said "crystal clear, as good as it gets, you're perfect!!"
FANTASTIC!!
I could see the relief falling off of S.
His face showed such a beautiful smile when he heard of the results- and that gave me a glimpse into what it will be like handing him his child. I CANNOT WAIT!
They have been down such a hard road in their search for a family and that was very noticable considering the relationship the guys seem to have with the staff. The nurses were so thrilled that I was ok'd by the doctor that after we left, we had to go back to the office for more labs lol. The wonderful nurse that will be working with the guys and I gave me all sorts of prenatal vitamin samples and said "here take them all! Ill order any kind you want" haha
She also was very thorough in showing me how to use the needles and vials (which cracked me up....I use those things all day long at work) What I am nervous about is the stabbing myself on purpose part...EEEKK
The doctor was wonderful! He seemed to appreciate my interest in the medical aspect of it and willingly showed me the ultrasound monitor and explained exactly what he was looking for and pointing everything out. I hate it when docs just do their thing and dont use the opportunity to teach.
He's my kind of doc !
Next up- shopping, people watching and gobbs of laughing. He is HILARIOUS and my sides still hurt!! We definitely have the same sense of humor
We walked along the ocean which was a dream come true for me, to stand in the Pacific---Yes Please!! It was freezing!
Checked out the Santa Monica Pier and had a very realxing dinner. I couldn't wipe the smile from my face!
Stayed in a fabulous hotel and awoke the next morning for another full day of flying home. Beyond thankful S came with me- I would have been a hot mess with my amazing direction skills ;)
Once home, I got another great present.....which had meaning of hope and promise and optimism.....pregnancy tests!! :) 8 of them to be exact hahaha. That meant the world to me
All I can do is shake my head in awe at this amazing opportunity. Its so strange not being able to match my feelings to words. How can I ever describe the power, magnitude, and love that God has given me?
Yes I am helping this couple have a baby, but it feels so much bigger than that. I am gaining so much from this!
It's the principal of the whole situation- a gay couple and a christian. (not that theyre not christian....I actually don't know) So many christian people think a baby is meant for a man and a woman. Which is where I was at mentally at one point also. Without going off on a tangent, EVERYONE deserves to have and experience the love of family.
I want to show the world what LOVE really means.
What Jesus did for us, and what He has asked of us- to love unconditionally. I love these Dads. I couldn't imagine doing this for anyone else.
To think one day soon I get to be a part of their dream of being daddies....and get a front row seat :)
My cup runneth over............
I've been feeling so many emotions lately- all good! Its just hard for me to wrap my brain around this. I CANNOT BELIEVE how blessed I am.
These dads are out of this world!
I had an amazing time in LA- and that word "amazing" does not even come close to doing the trip justice.
God has been so ever-present and it reaffirms everything I am doing. I do not believe in coincidences, and with that said, so many things have happened that makes me want to cry happy tears. I've never been more sure of ANYTHING else in life like I feel for this journey and these dads.
For them to think even for a split second that they wouldn't be able to have children just breaks my heart.
So, I'll start from the beginning:
Monday was Labor Day- S and his mom and pop drove all the way (2.5 hours) to meet up for a cookout so we could all meet eachother's families.
Ummmmm SUPER COOL Parents!!!
Hilarious! Down to Earth, genuine and loving parents. (although after some of the stories S told me, his momma has a sassy side :0
I was so focused on things going smoothly at the cookout that I didn't have time to think that I was actually flying to LA the next morning!
(Thanks to my sissy,mom, and husband for helping so much)
It was wonderful to be able to see all of the most important people in my life together in one setting. That alone is rare.
Tuesday Morning: S picked me up and we headed to the airport. Flying is so cool!
We had a layover in Chicago and after a delayed plane, running through the airport in heels, and lots of funny people watching, we got a new flight to LA.
I have this weird thing for palm trees- they make me crazy happy :) so to see them from the plane was heaven.
As soon as we landed we grabbed a bite to eat and S gave me the most beautiful Swarovski crystal angel wing necklaces! Talk about unexpected!
I told him we don't need luck (because we have something better) but that hopefully it will represent 2 necklaces for 2 babies ;)
I was blown away
Our doctors appointment was first (and the entire reason for being there)
I was slightly nervous for what the doctor was going to see and say, I mean I know I have working parts, but I have heard of some surrogates going for the medical screen and it not being a good outcome. I really wanted him to like my uterus hahaha!
He said "crystal clear, as good as it gets, you're perfect!!"
FANTASTIC!!
I could see the relief falling off of S.
His face showed such a beautiful smile when he heard of the results- and that gave me a glimpse into what it will be like handing him his child. I CANNOT WAIT!
They have been down such a hard road in their search for a family and that was very noticable considering the relationship the guys seem to have with the staff. The nurses were so thrilled that I was ok'd by the doctor that after we left, we had to go back to the office for more labs lol. The wonderful nurse that will be working with the guys and I gave me all sorts of prenatal vitamin samples and said "here take them all! Ill order any kind you want" haha
She also was very thorough in showing me how to use the needles and vials (which cracked me up....I use those things all day long at work) What I am nervous about is the stabbing myself on purpose part...EEEKK
The doctor was wonderful! He seemed to appreciate my interest in the medical aspect of it and willingly showed me the ultrasound monitor and explained exactly what he was looking for and pointing everything out. I hate it when docs just do their thing and dont use the opportunity to teach.
He's my kind of doc !
Next up- shopping, people watching and gobbs of laughing. He is HILARIOUS and my sides still hurt!! We definitely have the same sense of humor
We walked along the ocean which was a dream come true for me, to stand in the Pacific---Yes Please!! It was freezing!
Checked out the Santa Monica Pier and had a very realxing dinner. I couldn't wipe the smile from my face!
Stayed in a fabulous hotel and awoke the next morning for another full day of flying home. Beyond thankful S came with me- I would have been a hot mess with my amazing direction skills ;)
Once home, I got another great present.....which had meaning of hope and promise and optimism.....pregnancy tests!! :) 8 of them to be exact hahaha. That meant the world to me
All I can do is shake my head in awe at this amazing opportunity. Its so strange not being able to match my feelings to words. How can I ever describe the power, magnitude, and love that God has given me?
Yes I am helping this couple have a baby, but it feels so much bigger than that. I am gaining so much from this!
It's the principal of the whole situation- a gay couple and a christian. (not that theyre not christian....I actually don't know) So many christian people think a baby is meant for a man and a woman. Which is where I was at mentally at one point also. Without going off on a tangent, EVERYONE deserves to have and experience the love of family.
I want to show the world what LOVE really means.
What Jesus did for us, and what He has asked of us- to love unconditionally. I love these Dads. I couldn't imagine doing this for anyone else.
To think one day soon I get to be a part of their dream of being daddies....and get a front row seat :)
My cup runneth over............
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
Still on track!
Got the P today. Which means our appointment is still good for the 4th in Cali! Since our flight is so early, S is coming the night before and staying in a hotel.
I can't wait for all the fun stuff planned!
We will be having a cookout for labor day at my moms where his parents will also be coming to meet me and my friends/family!!
Soooo excited!! And nervous :/
I can't wait for all the fun stuff planned!
We will be having a cookout for labor day at my moms where his parents will also be coming to meet me and my friends/family!!
Soooo excited!! And nervous :/
It feels like a date :)
Short and sweet today but my next post will be about my first ever trip to LA!
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Medical exam
Appointment set for the medical screen in LA on September 4th. Coming home on the 5th.
Starting bc pills in the a.m. and stopping on the 25th to bring on aunt flo.
It's been about 9 years since ive been on any kind of bc so it'll be interesting to see how my mood shifts ;)
Pray for Eric
S will be going with me : Thank Goodness! He's a blast!
I'm finally getting to meet the ladies from Modern Family (well at least one for sure)
This is so cool! :D
Starting bc pills in the a.m. and stopping on the 25th to bring on aunt flo.
It's been about 9 years since ive been on any kind of bc so it'll be interesting to see how my mood shifts ;)
Pray for Eric
S will be going with me : Thank Goodness! He's a blast!
I'm finally getting to meet the ladies from Modern Family (well at least one for sure)
This is so cool! :D
Monday, August 13, 2012
Matched!
I'm SOOOOO excited!!
I don't know why I was so nervous, the guys are awesome!
We met for breakfast then went to the park afterwards.
Maveric was cracking me up all day. At breakfast he decided to stake his claim on everyone's food except his own. Then proceeded to pour his own syrup and cut his own pancakes. Maybe I have a chef in the making??
Finn also did pretty well. He was dancing like usual.
It was so nice to get together with them and just relax, enjoy the day, and get to know each other.
Eric loves them too, not that theres anything not to love :)
They are S & A. Super nice, generous, funny, caring, and down to earth. They no doubt will make fantastic parents and have lots of love to give! Looking back I am so happy at how things have turned out. I know I was super bummed and sad that I wasn't being matched right away,but of course, it all makes sense now! I dont think I could dream up better people to get to do this for!
I know that some IP's live far from their surrogates and in some cases really really far. I am so happy that the guys are close and only a short drive away. We will get to have a much closer relationship than a lot of other people and I can't wait to meet their families as well as introduce them to those near and dear to me.
So once we got home, I was to call the agency and let them know how
I felt the meeting went. ( AMAZING)
Then I had to hope and pray and wait to see if the guys felt the same.
Right before the agency called me back, S texted to say they are looking forward to building a very strong relationship going forward
.............Best news ever!
So of course once the agency called I couldnt stop smiling like this :)))))))))
Cora could probably hear me smiling thats how big it was!
so.... the next step.
TMI alert ( not that any men read this)
the next step is for me to have a medical screening with their IVF doc. AKA= flying to LA
He needs to see me between days 6 and 11 of my cycle which would be within the next week. If thats too soon, it will wait until my next P.
Also have to get the insurance bit figured out which the agency will help with.
This journey is a long awaited one for the guys and the baby/babies will be so spoiled and get so much attention (first child for both sides)
I CANNOT wait to get to do this....
Im picturing how fun it will be to get to tell them I am prego and see their anticipation grow as my belly does.
As we all know, I am crazy passionate about babies and birth and I know firsthand how magical it is to be in the room the minute a baby arrives. Its nothing short of a miracle and it will change you forever. If any of you have ever had the honor of witnessing a birth, ( shoutout to my beautiful baby girls gianna and payton) you too know how honorable that moment is and you were probably so grateful that the mom wanted you there?!
Well I get to do that times 100. I get to be the one to give them their baby not just be present during it.
I am completely honored,excited,happy,blessed.
Seriously the guys are awesome!
Thank You God for your hand in this---- I wouldnt/couldnt be doing this without your o so loud presence. I LOVE how well He knows me and how I need to be told things a couple times each gradually getting louder in order to really be sure I am on the right path.
Such a sense of calm when you realize youre right where He wants you.
You really can't wipe the smile from my face :D
I don't know why I was so nervous, the guys are awesome!
We met for breakfast then went to the park afterwards.
Maveric was cracking me up all day. At breakfast he decided to stake his claim on everyone's food except his own. Then proceeded to pour his own syrup and cut his own pancakes. Maybe I have a chef in the making??
Finn also did pretty well. He was dancing like usual.
It was so nice to get together with them and just relax, enjoy the day, and get to know each other.
Eric loves them too, not that theres anything not to love :)
They are S & A. Super nice, generous, funny, caring, and down to earth. They no doubt will make fantastic parents and have lots of love to give! Looking back I am so happy at how things have turned out. I know I was super bummed and sad that I wasn't being matched right away,but of course, it all makes sense now! I dont think I could dream up better people to get to do this for!
I know that some IP's live far from their surrogates and in some cases really really far. I am so happy that the guys are close and only a short drive away. We will get to have a much closer relationship than a lot of other people and I can't wait to meet their families as well as introduce them to those near and dear to me.
So once we got home, I was to call the agency and let them know how
I felt the meeting went. ( AMAZING)
Then I had to hope and pray and wait to see if the guys felt the same.
Right before the agency called me back, S texted to say they are looking forward to building a very strong relationship going forward
.............Best news ever!
So of course once the agency called I couldnt stop smiling like this :)))))))))
Cora could probably hear me smiling thats how big it was!
so.... the next step.
TMI alert ( not that any men read this)
the next step is for me to have a medical screening with their IVF doc. AKA= flying to LA
He needs to see me between days 6 and 11 of my cycle which would be within the next week. If thats too soon, it will wait until my next P.
Also have to get the insurance bit figured out which the agency will help with.
This journey is a long awaited one for the guys and the baby/babies will be so spoiled and get so much attention (first child for both sides)
I CANNOT wait to get to do this....
Im picturing how fun it will be to get to tell them I am prego and see their anticipation grow as my belly does.
As we all know, I am crazy passionate about babies and birth and I know firsthand how magical it is to be in the room the minute a baby arrives. Its nothing short of a miracle and it will change you forever. If any of you have ever had the honor of witnessing a birth, ( shoutout to my beautiful baby girls gianna and payton) you too know how honorable that moment is and you were probably so grateful that the mom wanted you there?!
Well I get to do that times 100. I get to be the one to give them their baby not just be present during it.
I am completely honored,excited,happy,blessed.
Seriously the guys are awesome!
Thank You God for your hand in this---- I wouldnt/couldnt be doing this without your o so loud presence. I LOVE how well He knows me and how I need to be told things a couple times each gradually getting louder in order to really be sure I am on the right path.
Such a sense of calm when you realize youre right where He wants you.
You really can't wipe the smile from my face :D
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
maybe just maybe
I know it's probably way too early to say anything, but I'm just too darn excited and can't keep it in! There is another potential match!!!
and gues what..............
THEY LIVE IN OHIO!
holy crap i know!
They are awesome and smart and sweet and funny and...... my cheeks hurt from smiling.
I got to talk to them today on the phone and we've made plans for a double date on Sunday.
They are gonna drive all the way here and meet with us. (o man I hope our boys behave)
and I hope that I don't act my usual clumsy self :/
For me, I already know I want to work with them. I think they might be wanting to wait until after Sunday's meeting before talking with Modern Family but not sure.
Crazy how things work out.
I thought this journey was going to be a way for me to help open other people's eyes, but I'm quickly learning that maybe God is using this to open MY eyes :)
I better not get too ahead of myself so just pray that they like me and want to work with me just as much as I do them.
Dear God, Please don't let me trip, spill anything, or stutter
and please o please let our children be on their best behavior
and gues what..............
THEY LIVE IN OHIO!
holy crap i know!
They are awesome and smart and sweet and funny and...... my cheeks hurt from smiling.
I got to talk to them today on the phone and we've made plans for a double date on Sunday.
They are gonna drive all the way here and meet with us. (o man I hope our boys behave)
and I hope that I don't act my usual clumsy self :/
For me, I already know I want to work with them. I think they might be wanting to wait until after Sunday's meeting before talking with Modern Family but not sure.
Crazy how things work out.
I thought this journey was going to be a way for me to help open other people's eyes, but I'm quickly learning that maybe God is using this to open MY eyes :)
I better not get too ahead of myself so just pray that they like me and want to work with me just as much as I do them.
Dear God, Please don't let me trip, spill anything, or stutter
and please o please let our children be on their best behavior
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